![]() OK I think I've gone a little overboard on engagement here. The joy of giving a gift (feedback) - joyĪnd the joy of making sure it's a gift not a shit sandwich. The joy of receiving a gift (feedback) - joy Ho ho ho, merry feedback-mas everyone!!!!Įvery day can be christmas and your get to be every participant :) The better we get at feedback the more and higher quality gifts should be given and received. Should I get a t-shirt made up somehow symbolising this? A ‘gift’ to myself about ‘gifts’, how wonderfully meta :). So… you want to be ‘not a spoilt brat’ ‘elf’ ‘santa’:). This should mean that you take on the feedback better and get more gifts (feedback) in the future. ‘make the person who provided you with feedback feel like they gave you a gift, they feel energised after providing feedback’ When ‘receiving feedback’ you want to be the best ‘gift recipient’. Once you have landed on what is ‘real’ then make a plan for what to do. Hopefully you get to a landing but it might need time for both parties to digest, clarify etc. Then see what the feedback provider has to say. I go back and explain what I feel might not be on point with explanation. Tell them what I plan to do in the future regarding the feedbackĪsk them to please help me implement the changes and point out if I’m not doing what I agree. I then go back and say I ‘agree’ with feedback. ![]() This is robbing yourself of the opportunity to learn! “Don’t try to decide if the feedback is right or wrong, try to find out what you can learn from the feedback.” I find that people can decide eg that they disagree with 20% of the feedback and then write off all of the feedback. If things aren’t on point this is typically because the feedback provider has partial context. Then say you’ll consider this and come back to them with next steps.ĭecide how much you agree with the feedback provided, I find that there is always something useful in the feedback, sometimes it’s 90% on point, but sometimes only 25%. Once you and the other party believe you understand the feedback provided thank them for giving you this gift. ‘Actively listen’: ask qualifying questions, try to really get to the nub of what someone is saying (unfortunately in the past I’ve found I’ve only say 60% understood what someone was saying). When receiving feedback be as welcoming as possible and try to listen. What is the process I try to follow when receiving feedback: So not giving constructive / positive feedback is actually being a ‘bad friend / coworker / etc’. I believe if you have feedback for someone you should provide it as not doing so is robbing them of the opportunity to grow. Neutral is in the middle of ‘good’ and ‘poor’. This means that they want to give feedback again in the future. Be actively thankful and make the person providing the feedback feel like they have given you a gift. Good: Feedback is a gift, it is an opportunity to grow. This could rob you of the opportunity to grow in the future. ![]() I’ve personally found that this is quite hard to do but that as I try to treat feedback as a ‘gift’ I’ve been able to get better at this.Įxternal (ie the person giving the feedback): acting this way can mean that the person giving feedback is actively discouraged from giving feedback again in the future. So you want your mindset to be as ‘open’ to growth as possible. Internal (ie the person receiving the feedback): I think you want to ‘lean in’ to the feedback and try to be as open as possible to hearing what is being said and try to see what truth there is and what can be actioned on the back of it. Even perhaps ‘return fire’ and say ‘well you aren’t so great yourself, have you noticed this ’. Poor: When receiving feedback act like you are under attack, make up explanations as to why what is being said is incorrect. There are not intended to be any implied religious tones, it’s just a bit of a fun analogy :). This blog will talk to three aspects of feedback:įor context this blog was written in December 2017, hence the ‘christmas theme’. I’ve been thinking about feedback and how to do it well. One key part of ‘personal’ growth is getting feedback from others. They say that personal growth is one of the top three things that delivers happiness. Why every day can and should be christmas :)Īristotle - “Anybody can become angry - that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way - that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.” Give lots of gifts, as doing this means you are more likely to receive gifts :) Wrap gifts well (ie word your feedback giving well)Ĥ. Make sure you are good at receiving gifts (feedback).ģ. To see all blogs click here.ĭone well, feedback is a gift, it is an opportunity to grow!
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